Journey of Connection: Anchoring Your Family From Afar

In the bustling world of business, juggling work-related travel with family responsibilities can be a daunting task. Parents often find themselves in a balancing act, trying to stay connected with their children and support their spouse while being miles away. But fret not, as this challenge is not insurmountable. As a seasoned professional who has navigated the turbulent waters of work travel and family life, I'm here to share practical and effective strategies to keep your family bonds strong, even when you're on the road. This article is your compass, guiding you through the complexities of maintaining meaningful connections with your loved ones, regardless of the distance.

As a seasoned professional who's spent countless hours in airports and hotel rooms, I understand the struggle of maintaining strong family ties while being miles away. The guilt of missing soccer games, the longing to tuck your children into bed, or simply being there for your spouse can weigh heavily on your heart. But over the years, I've learned that physical distance doesn't have to equate to emotional distance. Here are some practical strategies to help you stay connected with your family and support your spouse, even when work takes you away.

Embrace Technology

In today's digital world, staying in touch has never been easier. Video calls aren't just for business meetings; they're perfect for bedtime stories, helping with homework, or simply sharing the events of the day. Apps like FaceTime, Skype, and Zoom can transform your smartphone or laptop into a portal back home. Sometimes just them seeing your face and you seeing their face is reassuring and comforting. Making this a priority also reinforces that they are still a big part of your life, and keeps you a big part of theirs. My two teenage boys will beat the stairs down everytime I call or facetime. They still love to talk to Pop on the phone or on facetime even at 14 years old and 18 years old.

Nothing is unimportant. Everything they say is a big deal to them; so, treat everything as such. A little enthusiasm in your voice when hearing them play the guitar or showing you their new body building pose pics every time you call is a big deal. This is just as important for your spouse. Set a reminder to call and ask about that meeting they had with the teacher. Send a reminder text to your kids to take the trash out or do the dishes. These simple tasks you can give your kids help your spouse maintain an orderly home while your away and reinforces that just because you are not physically present does not mean you are no longer on your spouse’s team.

Establish Regular Communication Routines

Consistency is key. Establishing a regular communication routine can provide a sense of normalcy for your children and spouse. Whether it's a daily morning text or an evening video call, keeping these appointments shows your family that they're a priority, regardless of your location. I have what I call “Kingdom Communications”. These are texts that only my wife and kids get. Every morning and every evening, my wife and I have a race to see who can text “6:24” to the other first. 6/24 is our anniversary. It is a simple way that we keep our relationship tight. My two boys get similar texts. Lucas will get “11:18! I love you, son!” every day at 11:18. That is his birthday. Layton will get “4:14! I love you, son!” every day at 4:14 for the same reason. Sarah, who is a young lady that I have pretty much adopted as my own, and my boys have adopted as their sister, gets “9:05! You are never alone, sweetie!” These communications keep my family close and connected.

We also do a facetime call every morning to say “Good morning” and we have a facetime call every evening to say “How was your day?” There is a separate facetime between my wife and I as we are preparing for bed. This facetime is the opportunity for me and her to connect and handle any new business coming up, or discuss any issues that have arisen.

Send Surprise Gifts

Who doesn't love surprises? Sending unexpected gifts can be a wonderful way to show your love and care. It could be as simple as a postcard from your current location or a book your child has been wanting to read. These small gestures can make your family feel special and remembered. You can even cook dinner for your family while your away. Just tell your spouse first. “Hey Babe, I am ordering dinner for you all this evening. What time would you like it delivered?” Door Dash, GrubHub, etc are perfect for this. They turn your absence into an opportunity to let them know you love them and want to make sure they are eating well while your away.

Involve Your Family in Your Travel Plans

Make your travel a family affair by involving them in your plans. Share details about your destination, the culture, and any exciting places you'll visit. This not only educates them but also keeps them involved in your life. If you’re like my family, your clan can travel with you sometimes. Turn your work trip into a mini-vacay for your family. They can see your routine and how you operate when you are away. This answers so many “I wonder what they’re doing” questions. If they see you operate for a week then that, “I wonder what dad is up to”, turns into, “I bet dad is writing those reports from those inspections today”.

Prioritize Quality Time When Home

When you're home, make every moment count. Prioritize quality time with your family, doing things that you all enjoy. This could mean going on a picnic, playing board games, or simply enjoying a meal together. These shared experiences can create lasting memories and strengthen your bond.

Staying connected while traveling for work isn't easy, but with a bit of effort and creativity, it's certainly possible. Remember, it's the quality of connection that matters, not the quantity. Your family needs to feel your love and presence, even if you're miles away. With these practical steps, you can ensure that your family bonds remain strong, no matter where your work takes you.

Final Thoughts

Navigating the demands of work-related travel while maintaining strong family ties can indeed be a tightrope walk. But remember, each mile you traverse is a testament to your commitment as a parent and spouse, striving to provide for your family. Embrace technology, establish regular communication, surprise your loved ones with thoughtful gifts, involve them in your travels, and cherish every moment when home. These are not just strategies, but stepping stones towards bridging the physical distance with emotional closeness. So, as you pack your suitcase for your next business trip, remember to also pack in these practical tips. Staying connected with your family while on the road isn't just about making calls or sending texts; it's about ensuring that your love and care travel back home, no matter how far your work takes you.

Bill Simmons, AIC, CPI, CCI, CASA is the owner of L2 Insurance Consulting LLC, and he is an industry recognized expert relating to insurance claims and claim related damage. Bill has worked in every aspect of insurance claims from automobile liability and subrogation to property claim specialist, and he has worked both aspects of insurance claims, for carriers as a staff adjuster and as an independent adjuster. Bill also serves as an expert witness in the insurance claim legal process. Bill lives in Panama City, FL with his wife, Amanda and their two sons, Layton and Lucas.